I want to give a soft sign casually

After the boom of softener "Downy" imported from the United States,The number of people suffering from fragrance damage is increasing. It is common knowledge that perfumes are not allowed at sushi restaurants, but regardless of TPO,Excessive fragrance emitted from clothes is also NG” has not yet been fostered.

Before the concept of sexual harassment, power harassment, moral harassment, and sumo harassment was born, the people involved had no proper awareness. currentSmell harassment is the same, and many people are not aware that they are a party...

It is probably unacceptable to emphasize the constitution of the receiving side and to justify harassment based on such reasons as "because they are nervous or overly sensitive." Just like "sexual harassment, power harassment, moral harassment, and sumo harassment."

Based on this background, I think that Sumehara will be widely recognized as a social problem to some extent in the future.

By the way, "sexual harassment, power harassment, moral harassment, and smo harassment" still lurk in social life, and it seems that some people lack awareness.

As one of the measures to have such people casually notice, we propose the following coined words.

BReIN"Person who is sexually harassing ➡ Sekler"
"People who are power harassment ➡ Powerer"
"People who are harassing ➡ moraler"
BReIN"People who practice sumohara ➡ Sumolah"

And the same applies to those who have unintentionally become the source of incense harm, that is, those who practice smearing.

"People who are doing Smehara ➡ Smeller"

moreoverthis pageAs introduced in , the act of not adhering to social voice distancing is voice, volume, harassment, or "boi harassment," and the perpetrator is called a "boiler."

However, there are cases where people who are harassing people are extremely unaware of it.What should I do when I give the sign "Please be aware"?

In scenes where special consideration is required in the relationship with the parties,I want to convey it as softly as possible....

Assumed Actual Usage ~Smeler Edition~

For example, when you are eating at a restaurant, the smell of the fabric softener of the person sitting next to you is so strong that your meal is ruined.

The limit of my patience... When I finally can't stand it anymore and decide to move my seat, how should I call the clerk and tell him?

I think it's common to say, "I'd like to move to another seat over there, would you mind?"

In that case, it is better to tell the reason why, and the store clerk will understand the customer's feelings, which may lead to a smoother response.

What kind of communication is expected? "I want to change seats because the smell of fabric softener from the person next to me is strong."or"I can't stand the smell of the next door, so please change your seat.Is it an ant?

The person next to me who heard this (Smeler) do you think? Depending on the situation, you may not realize that you are talking about yourself, or you may be too absorbed in the conversation to hear it, but there is a good chance that you will be able to hear it.

Such straight-forward language can create an awkward atmosphere in the store, which can detract from the feeling of luxury and elegance.

on the other hand,"Excuse me, I don't know where it is, but it seems that there is a person from Sumera... I would like to change seats if possible.What about the expression "?"

Since words such as "neighbor", "softener", and "smell" are not used at all, it can be expected to have the effect of suppressing the deterioration of the air in the place to some extent. By the way, it can be used in the same way when the cause of incense damage is perfume or eau de cologne.

from now onSmelerIt depends on the extent to which the term spreads, but since it is an expression that is wrapped in oblates, the risk of antagonism may be somewhat reduced. If you are the smartest party,SmelerEven if you don't understand the meaning of the word, there is a possibility that you can guess something...

most of the shopkeepersSmelerIn a situation where you don't know the term "smell harassment", you might not immediately say, "Oh, you're talking about smear harassment." It is possible to guess that

Then, after moving seats, you can explain to the clerk again, "I'm sorry that the fabric softener (or perfume) of the person next to you is too harsh."

However, this method does not include the original purpose of this article.It is a viewpoint of "promoting self-awareness in Smeler"..

It can be said that the hurdles are actually quite high in order to make a complete stranger aware of themselves, and to give a soft and casual sign in a public place. It could lead to quarrels and fights, and in some cases, there is also the concern that it could turn into a real fight.

With the method I introduced this time (soft way of communicating to the store clerk), it is unlikely that the neighbors will have a clear awareness.

However, the time has come when society as a whole shares the term "smell harassment", and at the same timeSmelerIf the word ``what is this?

Of course, there may be cases where direct expressions are allowed if there is a reasonable amount of trust in the relationship with the other party.

Assumed Actual Usage ~ Moraler Edition ~

Couples who have a family relationship. A scene where four people are having lunch at a cafe. The two wives (A-ko and B-ko) are members of a local handicraft circle, and they usually share their troubles with each other.

Ako's husband has been harassing his wife since the corona crisis, triggered by increased work stress. In other words, Ms. A is currently receiving moral harassment. Knowing this, Ms. B consulted with her husband and decided to carry out a certain strategy.

Ako's husband is not aware that he is harassing himself. So it's a strategy to try to get noticed somehow.

So, in order to invite her to lunch and casually tell her, "You're being harassed right now," Ms. B's husband decided to put on a play.

“I heard rumors about the newly appointed branch manager (boss) not long ago, butPowererIt was

I haven't been victimized yet, but my co-workers have become targets. You used to be greatmoralerThat's why... I won't let you say you forgot."

However, marital relationships are complicated. At that time, I didn't know myselfmoralerI never dreamed I was. But my wife and I also have a lot of things to do... Now, it is true that I was completelymoralerI am deeply regretting that I was.”

Ms. A's husband, who heard this story, heard it as if it was someone else's problem, but after returning home, Ms. A said, "What did you think about today's story?" While hoping that my husband will understand even a little ....

I won't describe what kind of realization Ms. A's husband actually comes to after this, but in this series of conversations, there are real-life examples of power harassment (power harassment) and moral harassment (moral harassment). Did you notice that the words never came out?

Direct expressions run the risk of driving the other person into a corner, and the atmosphere of conversation tends to be heavy.PowererAnd,moralerI think you can see that by replacing it with an expression like this, it becomes quite soft.

Of course, if you use it incorrectly, it will become just slander, so you need to be careful about that, but it's basically the same regardless of what words you use.

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